“Indeed, when we begin this inner housecleaning, we may find the house full of trash. After all, trash that has not been cleaned out accumulates year after year, causing both emotional and physical problems. Returning our inner house to order may, in fact, require months or even longer, but all the while we do this work, we become more unburdened, with joy returning to our lives. The starting point for returning is always an obstruction, or a conflict, or a problem of some sort. They are giving us the message that it is necessary to begin to look for their cause.”